So many gurus of the self-help business want you to control your feelings by controlling your thoughts.
That’s all well and good, but the problem comes up when they ask you to mask your feelings with thinking nothing but happy thoughts.
The truth is that we move away from pain and towards pleasure. However, the drive to move towards pleasure is often not as strong as moving away from pain. It’s actually pretty easy to get stuck at a low level of pleasure because it’s better than pain. If we mask our pain and just seek out pleasure, then often times we’ll miss our big goal because we get sidetracked along the way.
Feel the pain that pushes and moves you. It’s ok to feel it. Just feel it and use it to never feel it again.
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